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What to Look For in Your Mate, Part 4 Print E-mail


Now that you know what your perfect date is going to look like, how far are you willing to travel to meet them? (You already know my personal driving limits.) The answer could depend on where you live. If you live in a small town of 600 in the middle of Nebraska, you may want to extend your distance a tad to increase the chances of finding someone who is available. If you live in a small city in Kentucky, you may want to extend the mileage scale to increase your chances of not finding someone who is "kinfolk."

But if you live in a large metropolitan area, a ten-mile radius could give you ample opportunity to meet your lovey dove. You just need to decide what will best fit you and your lifestyle. Another thing to think about is that no matter where you live, busy schedules maybe one reason to seek out people in a tighter mileage zone. There's nothing like putting in a ten-hour day then driving 100 miles to meet someone for a drink.

Laziness could be another reason for listing a small driving radius. One guy wrote in his narrative that he was a homebody, and sure enough when I looked at how far he was willing to travel to meet the love of his life, he put down within five miles of his home. Alrightythen. To me, that's really limiting fine quality choices, unless you live in a place like Tokyo. Five miles, wow. All I can say is for all you little old ladies, children, and four-legged creatures, beware!

Or if you run across an ad where the guy lists that he is not willing to travel any farther than from the couch to the TV to see anyone, I personally would delete him. But if he looks like a keeper, you can always hide the remote!

Men tell me they receive emails from all over the world. Yes, you do have the ones who don't mind and some that actually prefer women who are "far away." But for the most part, guys are looking for someone within "touching" distance. Even if the guy specifies they want someone within twenty-five miles, women from all over the globe will still respond, believing that they will be the one who will sway the guy into wanting a long distance relationship. Again, go ahead and respond. Just don't be too discouraged if the guy's not willing to travel halfway around the world to meet you. Some women get it in their head that just because they're attractive, the guy will "go the distance" for them, and unfortunately, it is usually just a waste of the guy's time and frustrates the hell out of them. Delete and move on.

The above categories are all pretty important; I mean the dating services wouldn't include them on the profile if they weren't. So for all of you picky people, now's the time to put down exactly what you want. Speak now, or forever hold your peace.

I do have to wonder, by having so many categories, are we becoming so "detail-oriented" that the list we're compiling is going to be next to impossible to fill? Are we being too demanding? Where do we draw the line? What if the guy wants someone between the ages of 34 and 43 and we're 44, do we answer? What happens if you're compatible in most categories, but you have an average build and they're looking for an athletic build? Do we bypass it or take our chances of getting rejected based on one strike? Would they prefer an athletic 45-year-old verses a 35-year-old "thick" person? Are people willing to bend in these categories, or are they etched in stone? I do believe I feel a Tylenol moment coming on.


 
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