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Advanced Tips on Describing Yourself, Part 2 Print E-mail


We do want ourselves to sound the best we can, that's how we catch people. You start out doing and saying things just to impress the other person, but as time wears away, so do the compliments, the sharing in activities, and the conversation. Admit it, we all get lazy and complacent. Then we wonder why we're not happy. Think about it.

And of course, everyone is looking for someone to be his or her "soul mate" to enjoy "good conversation and cuddling on the couch together." Puh-leeez. Reading between the lines from the male perspective: "All I want to do is have sex with an attractive, intelligent and sexy woman. Okay, maybe she doesn't have to be all that intelligent." And the female perspective: "All I want is a rich, good-looking man to respect me and take good care of me." Oh, like this isn't true and you all know it!! Is there something we can do to change our perspective on this? Can we ever get past these superficial ways of ours to actually be happy with someone for who they really are? Tough questions. Are you willing to take a chance and set aside high and unrealistic expectations?

Am I being too brutal? I'm sorry but a moment of reality just smacked me in the face. Maybe it's not quite that bad, but maybe we can attempt to make an effort to have the excitement last at least through one sports season. In order to do that, it takes energy, which sadly people forget to cultivate at times. Get out of your rut! Turn off the TV and start making some changes!

We all want to say the perfect things, we want to be as desirable as we possibly can via a computer screen, but try to stay away from listing things that really aren't you. Don't tell a guy you love to golf when you don't know the difference between a putter and a sand wedge. (And no, a sand wedge is not something you munch on during a break!)

But do mention that you would be willing to try new things. Tell them you've stayed out of the water ever since Jaws hit the big screen, but if he held your hand as you waded your way into the waves, you would give it another shot. Never tried hang gliding, or water skiing or snow skiing or hiking or camping or fishing? Maybe now's the time to give it a go.

Open yourself up to new interests. Worried about getting your hair messed up taking a drive with the top down? (The top of the car, ladies!) Afraid of breaking a nail rock climbing? Get over it. Guys would rather be with a woman whose hair is windblown and has two chipped fingernails, than to sit home with a perfect statue letting life slide right on by. Hop out of that blasted comfort zone you've been hiding in and start enjoying life instead of pouting about how big your hips look.

Make your narrative as upbeat as possible. No one wants to be around whiny, negative people. And even though you may not think so, your words can sound negative if you don't pay attention. Instead of mentioning things you don't like and things you can't stand, mention the things you do like and the things you do enjoy. Mention that you are eager to try new things and that you love going to the theatre, or that you enjoy listening to hip-hop music, but haven't found the right person to do it with yet. Sound energetic!


 
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